It seems that nowadays people don't really have good relationships with others. The main reason is that we don't talk enough any more. Conversation is really important in a relationship. We learn how others feel through chatting.
But Hong Kong is a busy place, and people focus on their jobs more than their relationships. Even when there is a holiday, they just use it to rest. There are fewer family days on the calendar, and people feel alienated and start to argue.
So, we must communicate. No matter how hard your life is, don't forget that others have pressure too, so don't argue with them just because you are stressed. Try to spare some time to be with others and enjoy the happy moments you have. This will make your relationship sronger.
Vanessa Chung, Pooi To Middle School
From the Editor
Thank you for your letter, Vanessa. You make a very important point. Every relationship - whether between family members, friends, a couple, or colleagues at your future job - requires people to communicate properly.
Even the kindest people can be selfish. Not "selfish" like not sharing something, but selfish by focusing only on themselves. You can forget to tell people what you're thinking, or what you need from the relationship. Then, when they don't do what you expected, you get angry because they didn't do it. They will get angry too, because you had unfair expectations.
But if we take the time to make other people understand what we need, how we feel, what we're thinking, and what we expect, we can clear up a lot of these issues. And if we let other people do the same and take note of what they need, we can avoid a lot of arguing and anger.
Karly, deputy editor