5 tips on how to build resilience, recover from setbacks, and not be scared by 'failure' again

5 tips on how to build resilience, recover from setbacks, and not be scared by 'failure' again

We all face struggles in life, but there are skills you can develop to help you cope with hardships

A person’s resilience can be measured by how fast they bounce back after disappointments. But more than that, it’s about your ability to adapt to challenging situations, while maintaining your emotional well-being. While research has shown that some people are naturally resilient, a little bit of practice can help you become mentally stronger.

Claire Ong, co-founder of The Positive Movement, a boutique academy that focuses on positive development, is a specialist in character development. Ong has spent much of her academic career helping students flourish. And whether you are going through a tough time, or just trying to prepare yourself for the next hurdle, her tips for building resilience should come in handy.

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Optimism the key

We all have a default thinking pattern that we fall into whenever problems arise. The first step to developing resilience is to become aware of our thinking pattern. Only then will we be able to reframe our thoughts and change our mental process to one that supports us better. The good news is that research has shown that optimism can be learned, and it is the key to developing greater resilience.

Choose gratitude

Gratitude is a strong feeling of appreciation for what others have done for you. It is associated with being content and wanting to help others. A sense of gratitude helps us to access other positive emotions that we otherwise may not be able to access. What’s more, research has shown that building positive emotions also contributes to building resources (physical, emotional and social) for tough times.

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Practise mindfulness

Mindfulness is defined as the non-judgmental awareness of the present moment. Research has shown that regularly practising mindfulness helps to reduce stress levels, and also increases a person’s ability to make good decisions and their resilience levels.

Develop emotional intelligence

Emotional intelligence – the ability to recognise your own emotions and those of the people around you – is a skill that can be developed. Research has shown that people who have higher emotional intelligence are less likely to fall into depression.

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Use your strengths

Research has shown that people who are aware of their strengths and hone them on a daily basis are more self-confident and have a greater sense of meaning. They are also better able to cope with adversity.

Ong will be speaking at the International Student Safety Seminar at South China Morning Post’s office on April 21. To find out more about the event, visit our event page on Facebook.

This article appeared in the Young Post print edition as
How resilient are you?


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