Are you in the mood for love?

Are you in the mood for love?

Survey shows students do not feel ready for dating

Are you ready for love and a relationship? Is being in a relationship stressful or desirable when you are a teenager? A recent study by the youth service centre of the Church of the United Brethren in Christ in Hong Kong indicates that 71 per cent of secondary school students do not feel ready for dating.

The team interviewed 3,365 secondary school students from November 2012 to January 2013. For boys, financial constraints were a factor; for girls, time management was an issue. Among the 13 possible reasons listed as major concerns for having a relationship, 34 per cent of boys selected "a lack of financial ability", and 33 per cent of girls chose "time management problems".

Fan Da-jong, an 18-year-old student from St Paul's Co-educational College, said: "Although girls say that they don't need boys to pay for everything on a date, I still insist on paying because I know they demand that deep down. But I'd rather spend money on Xbox games."

Fellow student Christy Lai Pui-see thinks love is not about money, but maturity. "I just don't think boys my age are mature enough. I couldn't be bothered to deal with immaturity," said the 18-year-old.

Garrie Ma Jia-li, 16, of Taft School in Connecticut, United States, said: "I have too much work at school to handle a boyfriend."

Her schoolmate Wilson Wong Shuai-qiao, 15, added: "My parents think I'm too young to handle a relationship. They would like me to get into college before finding a girlfriend."

Youth service centre team leader Serah Lee Mei-ying suggests schools provide in-depth workshops for Form One to Form Six students, to prepare teenagers for relationships. She advises teenagers to ask themselves whether they are ready to communicate with the opposite sex, and if they can manage their time well, before getting into a relationship.

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