Be a social butterfly
Nowadays many teenagers have difficulties making new friends. They are probably too shy and introverted. In fact, it’s not difficult to make new friends.
First, you should not be afraid to meet new people at public gatherings. I’m sure you’ll get used to it soon. Here’s a useful tip: it’s easier to start a relationship with people who have similar hobbies.
Second, put down your electronic gadgets and face the real world. You’ll hardly have a chance to make new friends, if you are curled up in the sofa at home watching TV, or surfing the internet.
Try to get out more – why not visit a country park? Inhale the refreshing air and enjoy the wonderful summer breeze with your acquaintances.
Making new friends is a great idea and you can never have too many friends. Just nod, smile and look relaxed when you meet people you don’t know.
Dick Cheung, STFA Tam Pak Yu College
From the Editor
Thank you for your letter, Dick. It seems everyone today wants to be a “leader”. Parents send their kids to leadership camps. They read books on leaders and try to copy their habits. And if they are not super-duper CEOs, top sportsmen or otherwise fantastically popular, people think they are a failure. This is wrong in two different ways.
First, not everyone wants or needs to be an outgoing social butterfly. Not everyone can be. Some people are extroverted, others are introverted, just like some people have straight hair and others have curly hair. Both have their merits.
It is not true that introverts are not worthy leaders or successful people. We all know that Steve Jobs was famously introverted, and along with Bill Gates, Harrison Ford, Lady Gaga and Mahatma Gandhi, they make a formidable array of leaders. What they have to offer a world that cannot stop talking is silence.
Second, not everyone can be a leader, for who would they lead? People tend to put so much emphasis on the social skills of an extrovert – my daughter is a great speaker, my son has so many friends – that it seems that those are the traits which count. No one ever says “my son is such a great listener”, or “my daughter might only have two friends but they are golden”. Being a good listener and having good friends are just as important.