Every child has his or her own strengths and weaknesses - and we must not compare ourselves with each other

Every child has his or her own strengths and weaknesses - and we must not compare ourselves with each other

To Ka-ming’s video shows that you can’t measure how kind or caring a person is by their academic results

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To Ka-ming wants parents and teachers to stop judging children by their grades.
Photo: Unicef

My video is about one of the aspects of school life that doesn’t get much attention. People talk about how studies can cause stress, but school isn’t just about studying; it’s also about our interactions with each other.

I grew up in a happy family and have always enjoyed school. I am a Form Two student at a government secondary school in the Kwai Ching district. The primary school I went to was also in Tsuen Wan. I’ve never had too many issues going to school.

When I was in primary school, there was a classmate who did relatively well academically but often broke the rules. And yet, he escaped punishment for his wrongdoings because the teacher didn’t believe the students who complained about him. Rather, the teacher thought that the complainants were trying to stir up trouble.


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This led me to believe teachers have a particular mindset where they think students who perform well academically must also behave well.

As a result, I wanted my video to disprove this myth – there is simply no correlation between academic performance and personal conduct. In fact, we should treat all children fairly.

In my video, a bully asks his classmates to help him finish his homework. However, when he hands in the homework, he pretends that he is the one who completed it.


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Originally, I thought up an ending where the bully continues to torment his classmates. But I decided I wanted to have a more positive ending, so in the end, the bully and his classmates make peace with each other.

My family is rather ordinary, and while my mother rarely scolds me, she always compares me to other classmates in terms of things like who has achieved better results in extracurricular activities, who has more certificates, who has done more homework, and who is harder-working.

With this in mind, I also want to use this video to tell every parent that every child has his or her strengths and weaknesses, and they should stop comparing their kids to other children.

Instead, parents should praise their kids more so that they know they are unique.

Edited by Charlotte Ames-Ettridge

This article appeared in the Young Post print edition as
Be kind – and smart

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